You can call him CRAZY ,i call him DADDY

Its Fathers day n yes i received a happy news that i won an online writing competition titled "family memories" n here is my entry:

We are a pets crazy family n yes it runs in our genes (don't count my mom though ,she is a complete no no when it comes to pets) .This memory goes back to two incidents n so different in time scales .It so happened that it was raining for continuously two days n the roads,canals, everything was flooded,no electricity (the time when there was no facebook ,so it didn't matter much ) .We were trying to float our "very bad in shape" paper boats to the canal that flowed at the back of our home n suddenly we saw three little kittens who were born just two days back clinging to a wooden piece which was just on the verge of floating with the stream and a cat,their mother trying to enter into water to save them but the strong water flow pushing her back,As is every child's habit ,we ran to Daddy as we always believe at that age he has the solution to every problem in the world n told him about the plight of kittens He came with us and after a brief thought ,he entered into water n let me tell u it was not a fresh water canal ,it was the main canal that took the waste water away from the town ,embedded in water till his stomach,he picked up them n brought home ,washed them with damp cloth and fed them milk with a small spoon,the cat looked at him adoringly ,so did we n mummy with anger ,as always obsessed with cleanliness she was instructing dad toclean himself,take a bath n then enter the house........till date neither has mum changed nor my dad

*Next incident of my crazy dad goes to the time when we lost our sweetheart puppy Tipsy.Tipsy was a pet dog ,she was THE MOST IMPORTANT member of my family (n yes this time my maa also loved her)she fell ill n refused to eat anything ,even when we tried feeding her chicken (okk,its a big thing in a brahmin family but for tipsy to eat ,we could have done anything ) ,even the veterinary doctors refused to do any miracle n those days our diner table was silentn only conversation we used to have was of cursing the veterinary science (not the doctor because he happens to be my uncle) n one sad day after coming from her veterinary visit,she was no more ,we were crying,i took her in my laps n sat for hours n in the afternoon my dad came from clinic n when he entered home,he could make out that tipsy was no more he took her in his lap n looked at her with absolutely expressionless eyes .It was decided that tipsy would be buried in my brother's factory area so that wild dogs won't dig her up n eat her body ,we went ,the labourers dig up a big hole ,tipsy was gently pushed inside and the worker started to pour mud over her body and suddenly my daddy who was silent all this time,screamed "Don't pour mud over her face ,it would hurt her eyes" n yes he cried ,cried like a little baby who was lost in a crowd ,completely unaware of people around watching that its the same Dr Saheb whom we look up to always is crying .Next day our maid came to work and she said to me ,"In the slum colony,the talk of the day was ,how Dr Saheb was crying "
that is why i said YOU CAN CALL HIM CRAZY I CALL HIM DADDY

There you are standing as tall as an oak tree when I am small

You stand over me guarding my actions and catch me when I fall
.
When I reach the teens you are there
giving me your knowledge and wit

and although the times get tougher as i grow you never ever quit.

as I reach adulthood I start to do things on my own

wondering how you did it from the time I was born until I was grown.

Then I remember all you have done for me throughout the years

Remembering you were there for me through the happy times and the tears
.
I am happy you are my Dad

It makes my heart feel merry and glad.

no other person could ever take your place

And i realize this as i look into your face
.
This Fathers Day I want to honor you

For all the wonderful things that you do
.

Sunday lunch with "SATYAMEV JAYATE"

Satyamev Jayate is the new talk of town,comes an episode and we start tweeting,sharing,updating status n suddenly for the whole nation Aamir khan is the hot topic of Sunday and why not he has come out with a brilliant show with issues that need to be raised,a time slot and choice of channel that is planned smartly,marketing that has struck a cord with the common man,a celebrity to whom we listen 'coz he is always associated with some kind of cause and last but certainly not the least added with some heart touching songs.But before starting our Sunday lunch just sit back n think -has he brought out a genie from the bottle ,has he told us something that we never knew. Of course not he has just showed us a mirror which has got a thick layer of dust called "India-The next big superpower"

We have our sunday special lunch with biryani and a dessert and we discuss"How cruel of that educated family to torture the daughter in law for a girl child",'OMG is this the condion over rajasthan n haryana" and in the evening we get a call from a relative  informing that some xyz's daughter in law has delivered a second girl child n we have a pity in our voice saying"Doosra ladka ho jata to achha hota ,parivaar complete ho jata chalo jo bhagwaan ki marzi" and with this mentality we come to a point of no return .I have worked in some interior villages of Rajasthan n let me tell you the situation is gruesome and i feared visiting those places just because i am a girl

We discuss how shameful it is to accept dowry n go gaga over that girl "rani" and her courage ,the big fat theories of self respect ,how 30000 girls in Punjab are dowry victims but hey are we really enlightened ,forget the seniors i know a friend of mine who is well educated and her hubby who is far better educated ,abusing her verbally n physically because she didn't bring the required quantity of gold and a call from a friend proudly declaring the huge amount he is getting as a dowry ,and when i asked the basis,he replied he is son of a MLA 

So its good to get "moved on" but worse if we "move on"the next day "Be the change you wish to see"and contribute your bit in eradicating these social evils and not only add a sweet dish to your Sunday lunch ,add sweetness to the society u live in

ending this post with a lovely song on the same show which is a message in itself............Kudos to Satyamev Jayate................Sehar

HO "SITA" JAISI NARI WITH ADDED DEGREEDHARI

With due respect to the overtly active Indian Judiciary these days,just wanna ask Bombay high court judge what did he actually mean when he said "Sita followed Ram,why can't you?"
In reference to a case where husband filed a divorce case of his marriage of 11 long years when his wife refused to relocate to port blair with him and the judge said"A wife should be like Sita who went to forest along with her husband for 14 years"


Dear HC judge- i respect your authority but why are you being so judgmental?and you don't have any such "out of the world"advice for the "poor" husband?just go through any matrimonial pages and one common line u can find is "only professionals " or else "Need a convent educated,preferably doctor/CA/MBA ,fair complexioned............" and when you think you can't wind up your career all of a sudden and still carry on with your marriage successfully u get to hear words like this. i wonder what advice does the judge have for Army officer's wife or else IAS officers?????? 


A JOURNEY IS LIKE A MARRIAGE,THE MOST CERTAIN WAY TO BE WRONG IS TO THINK YOU CAN CONTROL IT"


Now that means that the next time  a husband abandons his wife  court may justify his action saying"Ram abandoned Sita,why can't he" and better for all of us that i don't carry my imaginations to "Draupadi"further.
as Mignon Mclaughlin once said"If you made a list of reasons why a couple got married and in the end why they got divorced ,man you would get a hell lot of overlapping"
Cheers to the lovely marriages n silly judgements(its all we can do other than to blog) ,well depicted by the ace cartoonist Satish Acharya

The new mantra of revenge-UNFRIEND /UNFOLLOW

I have grown up with tales of female fans of Aamir Khan writing him love letters with blood,girls jumping up from terrace when Dev Anand went out in black outfit ,gone are the days when to overcome a heart break one used to immerse himself in drinks +ghazals .The iconic song which became the anthem of every guy who underwent a heart break "Achha sila diya tune mere pyaar ka"

Yes -the breakups ,stalking,one sided love have gone a generational shift in the way expressions are vented out.Recently i heard of a proposal my friend got n when she refused kindly she was unfollowed n removed from facebook friend list(now u can understand the origin of this post)

Take a bow the new proof of a great life -Social networking sites;gone on a cool holiday-post the pics,you are not in a happy relationships if your profile doesn't scream about it,you are not a popular guy/girl if your comment thread does not cross 50 or u don't have followers in 3 digits .Talking about the revenge mantra you are removed from friend list if you don't approve of a relationship request &OMG what a loss it is &whoa there is a book titled'Facebook Break Up Etiquette"so make sure u catch one before doing the same and does that story end there-of course not a recent survey shows that 90%of people in the age group 18-45 keep a stalk on their exes through these sites 


Psychologists say this is a type of social disfunction called F.A.D(Facebook addiction disorder) where we overlap our real and virtual life to an extent that we always need Facebook?twitter to express ourselves .Make sure you are not one of them ,get a life n move on as there is more to life than updates n along friend list................HAPPY LIVING :Sehar

We Breathe CRICKET

Sachin nearing his 100th ton at the Asia cup match against Bangladesh and the whole country went crazy,social networking sites were bombarded with tweets,status updates,pics and what not.Suddenly the whole country was divided into two categories -

1)Sachin is God types-For every second Indian ,Sachin is god of cricket ,join this community and you would find many loyal friends always there to protect you in any war of words.They have some easily identified symptoms-change their DP to that of Sachin whenever he hits a century ,become hell of creative when admiring sachin ,MINDD ITTT if you even utter a word for Sachin's retirement (okk if you are wondering,i belong to the same category)


2) Sachin Should retire types- so they are the ones who keep on advising that Sachin should retire time n again and yes they are not Sachin haters(that's blasphemy in India) but every time Sachin replies them in negative and they are hell of war of words with the former category ,logic pe logic but no one cares.Their community is small (and some of them are hard core "Dada"fans too) ,but let me warn you they are very adamant


Rahul Dravid retires and we fill up the pages with tributes n videos and yes Mr wall of Indian Cricket ,you rightly deserved it for you personified the Gentleman's game in a true sense 

,there are no categories for Dravid never lets anyone give him advice ,you may not be a Dravid Fan but you would always adore this Superb player and a great human being 
"my approach to cricket was relatively simple ,it was about about holding the dignity and upholding the spirit of game.I hope i have done that,i leave with sadness and pride"
We would miss you too 




So we are a country that BLEEDS BLUE ,we eat cricket,we breathe cricket and with IPL around the corner we have more n more reasons to celebrate .Delhi is a diverse city when it comes to traditions.food ,fun ,so how come cricket would lag behind and as a hard core delhite who loves Delhi ,i am supporting Delhi Daredevils........ready for the challenge?

HOLY SHIT & AWESOME SHIT

No neither i have gone insane ,nor my blog account has been hacked-its my new post
It just happened one fine day that i was travelling by metro and as a matter of habit i was observing the guys n girls around (to look for the new fashion trends of Delhites of course ) and then i heard a very interesting piece of conversation and here it goes :
Girl 1(with colored hairs and a huge tattoo of goddess Durga over her arm) :Hey dude,this is my friend Neha
Girl 2 (Neha of course,with all possible piercings that just demarcates her from a tribal woman) :Hey hi Rahul,she has been discussing 'bout you a lot........ of course nothing personal  *giggle*
Boy : Hi Neha!so what are you doing these days?
Neha -Mass Com.
Boy-From DU?
Neha- No way,not even in my dreams,they are so padhaku types and I am doing it from the most fundoo college J***
Boy -Thats Journalism na?
(Poor boy his meager chances of being a super cool faded at that very instant)
Neha- Puhleeezzzzzzz!!!!!!(with an expression that dental surgeons make on examining a patient with bad mouth odor ),
journalism is so HOLY SHIT &mass com. is so AWESOME SHIT


Welcome to the Generation X who have a Facebook terminology,SMS vocabulary which ranges from LOL,ROFL, STFU, Puhleez ...........You can easily find the girls saying"I toh love this bag,its so damn sexy"""""if you are a parent of a teenager who has lost his sleep pondering over your son?daughter's language ,let me decode a few for you:
NICE/GOOD/UNCLE-AUNTY TYPES mean boring
SEXY is nice for them,COOL is what everyone wants to be these days,these days you are not in a relationship ,you are HOOKED ,remember they are cursing you when they say F*** YOU ,KICK IN THE ***,SCREW YOU
Need to stress upon a fact:add a DAMN ,even better if you prefix a SO ,Some hindi terms are also considered cool as if Smoking is so ancient,SUTTA LAGANA is what counts
You don't drink you actually GET HIGH or BOOZE OFF

Writing this post i remember my bespectacled high school English teacher who used to deduct my precious 0.5 or 1 marks even if i wrote "&" in place of "and"and once my principle made me spell "Sewing" a 100 times for a perfect pronunciation 

In this hyper connected world where many 'Tweet before they act',updates their facebook status even before they pick up a brush in morning ,this radical change was doomed to come


Life is like a Maggi Noodles thee days -instant and quick &to match that language had to change a little In this generation rabbit won't loose the race as he won't be sleeping,rather tweeting and even tortoise wont be behind ,he would be following rabbit's updates 
Well no hard feelings for anyone ,i toh enjoy listening this super cool language and with every passing generation there occurs a change in language ,who knows they would find themselves a place in dictionary too
No moral policing on the language that we speak.........if saying "awesome shit" makes you happy,say it with a bang............Love ................Sehar

IF ONLY................

Have you ever met a person who admits to nursing regrets ?these regrets can be many-not making a proper career choices,not having given enough time to family,the most common being not expressing your emotions to a person whom you once loved the most ,!Being beset with doubts about yourself &the life you have chosen is well recognized symptoms of MID LIFE CRISIS

Actually lets be honest,we all once in life think that life would have been different if we made some different choices .aptly termed as turning point decisions!  The difference being how do we react to these thoughts,some of us dismiss it in the name of destiny while the other group believes that its we n only we who determine our paths

Mid life crisis is a period of dramatic self doubt that that is felt by some individuals as a result of sensing the passing of youth n entry of old age people start reassessing their achievements in terms of their dreams which results in significant"out of turn"decisions related to work,marriage.relationships &even physical appearance 

If we all could accept the life that is meant for us.it would lead to greater satisfaction.the anger over "second best"never allows you to enjoy life to its fullest whats the use of crying over"ifs" &"wish i hadn't",the reality is circumstances were NOT different,time never goes in reverse mode&even after you deeply regret ,nothing's gonna change 

One of the best novels about midlife crisis "BACK WHEN WE WERE GROWNUPS" BY ANNE TYLAR is about a woman Rebecca ,53,who has a so called successful life with kids n buisness suddenly realizes"that she had turned into a wrong person".She wonders what a lovely life she would have if she had not dumped her sweetheart to marry a man older than her .She takes up a long journey to find her"Long Lost life"but ultimately realizes that "THERE IS NO TRUE LIFE ,YOUR LIFE IS THE ONE YOU END UP WITH WHATEVER IT MAY BE.YOU JUST DO THE BEST YOU CAN WITH WHAT YOU HAVE GOT"

Follow your passion,make sure you have time for your loved ones &take responsibility of your decisions &their results because"YOU CANNOT CONNECT THE DOTS LOOKING FORWARD ,YOU CAN ONLY CONNECT THEM BACKWARD,YOU HAVE TO TRUST THAT THESE DOTS WILL SOMEHOW CONNECT  IN  YOUR FUTURE:STEVE JOBS"